Hi all,

***BEWARE*** Heterosexual question

I've been texting a girl, (I'm bisexual, get over it) who I met through facebook. I don't know her personally but kind of got to know her through texts. She's a really nice girl, and REEAAALLY attractive. I've liked her from day one, asked her out a couple of times but she didn't seem too bothered. Anyway, texts were exchanging and the problem is, she's 7 years my junior (She's 18, I'm 25). This started to show with things that were said and it started being a bit of a concern, so was kind of getting into going quiet. Anyway, she started askingme the problem so I told her, age etc and that I didn't think she was interested and that we should just be friends.

She said she liked me and whatever and it got very deep to say I haven't even met her.

Anyway, I'm kind of thinking I made a mistake. I've been waiting ages to meet a girl like that, and the age is the only thing that puts me off. Only now I think she's a bit put off by it Half of me wants to say "sod it lets go for a drink" where as the other half is screaming "7 YEARS!!".

Any advice? Also, if I was to sort of give it a go, and go for the drink, how can I initiate that now?

My life is so fucked up.

All the best

Inglefucksitup

Women often mature earlier than men so even with the age gap you are probably about the same age mentally. The gap isn't huge, you are both legal adults and its not like you are doing a Hugh Hefner and going for someone who could be your child or grandchild.

As I mentioned in the age gap thread, when my parents married my father was 39 and my mother was 19. That marriage lasted 47 years until Dad passed away.

My advice:
"sod it lets go for a drink"

It's only 7 years.

Go for a drink.

Things will probably be very different in person. But at least you will know.

Give it a chance. Or maybe spend years wondering what if ...

Go for it.

She might have an older gay brother if it doesn't work out.

You're all right. Should have given it a chance. But how do I know say "Well actually, my bad. Fancy a drink?"

Harsh, no?

My parents have 8 years gap, they have been together for over 34 years. Go for it. Once you're both adults, age is just a number. You'll kick yourself forever if you don't.

Re what to say, just be honest. That's all you can be. If she's worth it, it will be enough.

Good luck

It's not a problem til you've actually met her. She's imaginary at this point. Strap on a pair and ask her for a drink you numpty!

I've got a straight mate who's 29 and is fucking an 18 year old, and you think you've got problems!

Honestly, your age gap is only a problem because you're making it so.

Did the drink happen, Ingledecisive?

It didn't unfortunately. I was taking everyone's advice, and decided "I'll give it a go". She then text me saying "I want babies really badly, do you?".

No thanks.

That she was apparently propositioning a guy whom she had never met to make her pregnant was not a good sign. You did the right thing by backing off.

haha exactly.

I'm not saying she wants a baby, but I think it was a good way to show her immaturity. Crazy

Possibly the problem here is that you're 25, but still saying things like "My life is so fucked up" when your only problem is you can't decided whether to date a girl. It makes you sound like some self-harming emo!

You're right, probably a bit extreme.

I've never self harmed though