Hey all!

Hope your all ok. I decided to post because lately I have been feeling a bit
lonely! Recently moved, settled in, jobs going ok, and now that I am nearly 24 feel that there is
just one thing missing.

I wondered if anyone had any advice on where to meet guys? That sounds
pretty lame I know but I just seem to be a bit of a loss. Any success stories?

I feel really bad posting this but hey, why not!

x

I suppose the obvious places would be the internet.
Gaydar and such sites.
But i think you'll be hard pushed to find someone who wants a relationship on there, also it can be risky and sometimes dangerous.
So I would make sure your completely trusting the person and meet a few times in public places to get know each other before starting anything straight away.


Theres gaybars and the general scene, I suppose if the type of man you like go there. You go there. It makes sense.

The best advice I could gave - being relatively inexperienced myself - is generally put yourself out there. go out more and explore new places, you're bound to come across someone who wants the same thing as you.
Go on nights out - it doesn't have to be gaybars or anything, just have fun and people are more generally attracted to others who are living a sociable and fun life.

I suppose the bottom line of what I'm trying to say is get out there you're more likely to meet someone out anf about than sitting looking through profiles on the internet.
Theres no simple way to meet someone straight away, things have to develop naturally.

Grindr

I think he's after a date, not a shag.

To the OP, I wouldn't feel bad. There's lots of previous threads on this if you scroll through. By and large, if you can find events attended by gays, you'll save yourself a lot of time.

True, a lot of guys do use Grindr just to get a shag, but it's not all sluts. I used to use it when I was bored and only ever used to yap away to people. Not once did I ever intend on meeting up with someone just "for a shag".

I met up for drinks with one guy. That's all it was intended to be, drinks. We went out for drinks, he went to his, I went to mine. That was almost 3 months ago and I'm still seeing him

It's not the BEST place to start, but you might get talking to one of the good ones, like I did

Well, I'll defer to you as an experienced user but I suspect that as Grindr is location based then your average Grindr user may be less sluttish in, say, the north of Scotland than, errrrr, London. At least it looks that way from my friend's experience.

Back to the OP. He hasn't said where he is geographically. He could get different advice if he's in London or New York as opposed to the US mid-west....

It's easy, all you gotta do is BLOCK the weirdos (those asking for pics/sex etc). Unless that's your thing, of course. In which case, fill yer boots

put something on it though.

Fairynough. Pardon my ignorance. My friend wouldn't have blocked as he got the rise from showing everyone his 'phone with said weirdos (is it that weird looking for sex?). So, there you are Storex! get Grindring (Grindering? Grinning? Using Grindr?).

Oh no, sorry, I think I worded that wrong. I don't think it's so weird to look for sex, it's just the way in which they do it. Ye know, I say "hey" and they instantly ask me if I'm top or bottom...

I admit, there aren't many normal guys on there, but if you spend enough time blocking all the guys that just want laid and nothing else, you can end up with an alright selection

I met my guy through a friend, why not ask yours to see who they know?

Back to my previous post. I bet it's less time-consuming to block the unsuitable in Auchtermuchty or wherever you hang than in Soho.........

Don't reply, we've shanghaied this thread overmuch already!