Ramble alert!

Dating...to a relationship...when does it happen, as in how long do you know someone before you get to that stage?

At the min, am playing the dating game after coming out of a year and a half long relationship a few months back.

Im pretty much a relationship kind of guy, not got that much experience when it comes to dating lads or girls for that matter. I had a long term gf, and decided it it wasnt what I really wanted. Since then, I have been in two relationships with lads.

So I guess atm you could say am "dating" a lad. He's 32 and im 24. Been speaking to him for a round a month now and been going out and seeing each other for a few weeks now. Last night he took me out, went the pics, for a meal etc. I really like being around him, hes funny and ticks all the boxes (did I mention he looks like Jake G? ) I find it really hard to read people and know if they like me or not. But then when he takes me out, spends time with me I guess(?) he does.

So basically am wondering...at what stage does it move into a relationship? How long have you waited?

I guess the whole point of this post is me trying to build myself up to ask him in due course, in another few weeks maybe if things carry on as they are.....to be honest...I wouldnt even know what to say!

Ramble over!

How can others tell you wether or not you are in a relationship?
I guess it's different for everyone. You just know at some point you wanna take it further (like you do now).
You should talk to your better half about it.

Drop subtle hints. Or not so subtle ones . The last guy I dated I said in a text message after like a month "Where are we in all this, I don't want to see anyone else, how do you feel about it?".

Turns out he'd been feeling the same, so we became "boyfriends".

Fucker still dumped me mind .

You should marry that man.







In all seriousness it is between the pair of you. If you are considering a 'relationship' with someone as opposed to just 'dating' then you should feel comfortable enough to talk to them about such matters and talking is what you should do.

It's different for everybody. In many (most? all?) cases you realize that you're in a "relationship" after it has happened already. It's not a milestone in time event like exchanging marriage vows.

One of you guys on here (I remember who, just can't remember the username) met a guy, stayed over the first night and then never moved out (and that was 20+ years ago).

Was it you Parsi?

If you strike the part about "(and that was 20+ years ago)" it might apply although I'm single now. (In the process of planning the next "coffee date" though. The last one was a week ago, but that one didn't work out. )

Damn, I don't like coffee.

We'll skip the coffee date and go straight on to Date no. 2.

Is that where we hold hands?

Well, let me just say that I can't remember the last time (if ever!) that a guy emerged from a second date with Parsy a virgin (as if he was one at the onset).

Going back to the original post.... you need to have 'the conversation' before you are in a relationship.
So that you both know you are.

From experience, I wouldn't have "the conversation" until you are 100% sure you both feel the same. The fact you are asking for advice on it makes me think not yet.

Its only been a month, just enjoy dating for a while. And congrats on bagging Jake G - does he have a brother?

Thanks guys...

Things have taken a weird turn...he txt me last night after he had been out, telling me how much he liked me...but that he had something to tell me. Basically he's moving to London and has been all along. So he's not going to be around much longer.

He said he wanted to tell me when we first met, but he wasnt expecting to like me as much as he did. He asked me to txt him when I got up cause he wanted to talk in person, which I did, this morning. But havent heard anything from him.

Looks like Game Over.

What a bastard

Kill him*.

He sounded like a great and friendly guy; do you think you'll still be friends? Is London far from where you are? If nothing else, it's good to have somewhere to stay there; hotels in the capital can be affa pricey.








*Don't kill him. I really give people that advice too much.

Am in Liverpool atm, so prob a bit far! I did think he would at least txt today to speak to me, but nothing.

Am just confused now though. Why put all that time and effort into getting to know me, take me out etc, pay for everything...I guess I'll just cut my losses now, cause something doesnt feel right the way he has just drastically changed.

We may have our answer.

J/k btw .

haha harsh!! That was just one date, it was my turn the next time to take him out...

I said I was joking .



That's exactly how I felt, how can someone change so much? But like I said, you'll torture yourself trying to work it out.

You sound lovely, so you'll meet someone else soon .

Is he moving "to" London or is he moving "back to" London?
How long has he been in Liverpool?
Are you sure he's single?

Yikes, I'm sorry to hear this didn't end well.

I was quite interested in the replies, however. I'm in the exact same boat. Had you not said anything about ages or location, I could have been convinced that it was me that was the OP

He's from Liverpool. Moving to London.

He says he's single, but its crossed my mind whether there is someone else either here, or in London.

He said he wanted to see me today, but wasnt feeling good. He wont discuss any of the move over the phone, says he wants to tell me in person...so he's asked to come round tomorrow...

I reckon you gotta go.
Or else you will always wonder.