Looking for some advice here, perhaps to be told its all a totally bad idea, or whatever.
I broke up with my boyfriend recently... and although sad at first (i.e. at the very time of breaking up), I realised I wasn't sad at all that evening, or the next day, or the next day.
The only one thing I was sad at was really... the fact that I would be loosing a best friend, someone who I had laughs with and hung out with, i.e. going to the cinema, grabbing coffee.
I originally told myself that if I was to ever break up with someone, I would totally cut off all ties forever. But just this once, I'm really questioning, "why should I?".
The relationship didn't end terribly (it was more a, fell out of love with each other), no one cheated, there was no anger, nothing... and he was a good friend. Why should I lose a friend just because we both fell out of love? I still care for him as a friend and a person...
My plan is to not speak for a few weeks, maybe even longer, but then eventually hope to become friends (I think we said we'd go clothes shopping - he is a pro at clothes, im a bit shit - sometime near the end of May). There is absolutely no false hope whatsoever... I don't want to get back together, I definitely don't want sex, I just don't want to never ever speak to a person that I've chatted to, and gone for coffee, cinema, shopping with, when I just think, what is the point?
I know he wants to be friends as well.
I'm also doing a load of other stuff at the same time, making sure I spend time with other friends, going out in London, and soon I'll finish Uni and I have to go flat hunting and a job to start. So it's not exactly going to be spending all the time with him... but yeah.
Am I sounding totally bloody mad? Is this a terrible idea hah?
Just wondered what the rest of you think and your experiences (is it possible to be friends)?