I started a new weekend job about 2 months ago as a till monkey while I'm at college and I'm really starting to fall for my supervisor :/ He was the one who till trained me and walk me round the shop and all the usual formalities etc and in a very uptight shop he's really laid back a good laugh. I'm 16 (nearly 17) and I've (well, it feels like) fallen for straight guys before and I can deal with that. Get on with it, move on. And I know this sounds like an "I wish he was gay" topic but in a strange way this is what is driving me mad: he IS gay.

A few weeks after I'd started I was speaking about him to another cashier there and she winked at me and said "you and [him] are getting on well aren't you?" and I panicked a bit in case she'd somehow worked I like him but she said "oh, I thought you knew he was gay". It sounded too good to be true because he's very straight acting but she said he'd split with his boyfriend of 2 years during the summer and that he seemed a bit more perky around me than usual? I mentioned what she'd said to him later on (well apart from the last bit) and he just told me that he was, said he was comfortable with it, that everyone there knew but that he didn't really see a reason to mention it. And since then my mind's gone into overdrive about whether he might like me back or not.

He works every other weekend so I do see him fairly often and when I asked him if he fancied going out one night he showed some interest but he's 20 and at uni, so is it likely he won't be interested in a college kid? :/ I got his MSN address and his number and I do speak to him most days now and there's a lot of winking and that sort of thing on MSN. He always seems happy to talk to me and on Saturday night at about midnight my parents had another big argument and I texted him asking if he was still awake and in the end he rang me to see if I was okay and we were on the phone until 3am. And he still looked really hot and energetic in work 6 hours later! Some people just have it don't they

And yesterday.. well I dunno what made me do it but when he was on a till next to me and I needed to get past him I put my hands on his hips and pushed him to the side that way. Sounds a bit weird I know (okay so it WAS weird ) but I kinda wanted to see his reaction to try and gauge whether he likes me or not and he grinned at me but then randomly walked off? Then later I sort of caught his eye while he was walking past and he definitely looked back and held my gaze and smiled at me.

I think the signs are there but I've been made to look a fool in this sort of situation before. I know obviously nobody can tell me for definite apart from him but this is more of a getting it off my chest post. Does anyone think this might be worth persuing? I'm just worried if I ask him more he'll twig how much I like him and work might become really awkward? Does that make sense?

Thanks guys x

Go for it boyo it seems that all the signs are there and he's for the taking. Good luck!

The child in me is saying "go for it"

The school teacher in me is saying "be careful"

what do you want from him?

Are you after a relationship or just a bit of fun??

From what you've said, he seems to be interested in you - which is a good sign. Maybe after you grabbed his hips and he walked off, he was going to some little corner in the store in hopes you'd follow him for a sneaky kiss or something? Try that again and see what happens..


good luck

Uh, no. The supervisor was being mature and acting responsibly. Regardless of whether or not the attraction is mutual, the workplace is for work, not for groping colleagues. There is no suitable advice for the OP except to follow the supervisor's lead and behave professionally.

Nothing wrong with asking him out (he's friendly enough!), so long as the OP accepts that the answer may very well be 'no'. It wouldn't be unusual at all for anyone - even a gay man (gasp!) - to simply have a rule about not seeing anyone from work, especially not someone under one's supervision.

I agree, be careful what you say or do while at work.

Perhaps a better way to deal with this situation would be to give him a cheeky grin from time to time, but don't do or say any more than that.

If you happen to bump into each other some time (for example, while putting your jackets on at the end of a shift ) you could always drop a little hint ( "doing much this weekend?") and see if he bites.

You have to remember that he is a bit older than you and, even if he does like you, he doesn't want to come across as some dirty old perv who can't wait to get into the boxers of every new lad at work!

"Dirty old pervs" are a lot younger these days!

"Do you want to grab a pint"?

But presumably not at the same time as provocatively thrusting your bulging crotch towards him.........



Sorry.

Oh, totally go for it.

You really don't have very much to lose. It sounds as if he either really fancies you or really wants to be mates with you so either way I'm sure that he'll be flattered.

Just invite him out for a drink. If he says yes then he probably does fancy you.

Good luck. Let us know how it goes.

GRABBED HIS HIPS WTF.

AWw this is cute.

I'm just a kid so I say flirt with him, but ya never know he might fire you for getting too close.

How tall is he?

Why, do you have some advice to give that varies slightly dependent on the height of the guy?

I have a thing for height, it helps me see the situation more clearly.

Especially if one is tall.

If the guy is tall and this dude is small, it makes it seem as if flirtling would just be a piece of harmless fun. Touching bums would be more normal then. However if they are both tall then it becomes serious it's hard to explain.
If they are both short then they should just play on the till, no body will notice. Just two hobbits having fun.

Yes that makes complete sense

I don't understand what I'm saying aswell.
Looks like might aswell stay in this hole.

some people have all the luck.

Can't you ask him out for an evening when chatting on MSN/phone.

He might need to be careful about flings/relationships with members of his team - the expression is "don't screw the crew".

doesn't sound like they work together too often.


let us know good or bad what happens

16!
Underage!
You should be conscious of theses things. Don;t you ave to be 35 to drink in the US.

Anyway, the supervisor sounds super.

I don't know what I want to be honest.. although I guess I crave a relationship a bit?




I was once told that if something is meant to be, it'll just happen. I know that's getting all philosophical etc but it feels like things are going okay between us now and I am kinda worried that if I ask him out and he's not interested then things will sour a bit? :/



Well I didn't say anything about his past relationship because obviously I don't know for certain much about it (and I've been advised by this cashier he won't talk about it at all) but his last boyfriend was only about a year older than me? While I think that shows age wouldn't be a factor I can't shake this feeling that a 3rd year Uni student wouldn't be interested in a little "college kid"? I know I have no base for that but I think you might understand what I mean there? :/



I might try asking him out for a drink or something on Sunday when I next see him (he's doing overtime ), but thanks, I'll keep you all updated



It made sense at the time



Erm.. just under 6 foot I'd guesstimate. About an inch or so taller than me.




The store manager is seeing one of the department managers, so I don't think it could be completely unthinkable. Not that I've been thinking about it in detail, of course



Yeah... he is

21

He doesn't have to go to the pub for that pint.

Yeah. And it doesn't have to be beer....

Hmm. I went to bed at about 2.30am last night and was reading some texts he'd sent yesterday and as I was going to sleep I suddenly heard his voice coming out of my phone and realised I'd accidentally rung him I can laugh now but I was absolutely horrified at the time because I could tell I'd woke him up He asked me if everything was ok though and laughed when I said I didn't even know I'd rung him? Said something about family all being asleep but if I was bored he'd text me and he did for erm.. the next hour I made some comment asking if he was still in bed and replied with "yeah and very cosy it is too ".

Reckon that wink is friendly or suggestive? I know what I want to think, especially since a lot of my mates would swear at me if I rang them at 2.30am

whoops

dont you just hate it when guys mess you about like this?
to be honest if he was really interested i think he would have made a move by now.
I would anyway. Just cut to the chase I say.

well he's the older and the boss, so it wouldn't be right for him to make the move.


But if the guy is willing to stay up and chat with you in the middle of the night, there must be some interest.

Not sure if anyone cares enough, but thought I might post how the last couple of weeks has gone, two things I've been pondering

He's working every Sunday now, which means I get to see him more as well A week ago he was doing some work outside and came inside and looked at the group of us and picked me out to go and help him, it was kinda a struggle not to look pleased lol. While we were outside it had started snowing and he threw a few snowballs at me.. like I think I've said he's pretty laid back lol. So we had a mini snowball fight and there was this one moment he got me in a headlock and rubbed a snowball into my hair and when he let me go I was certain he looked right into my eyes for a split second

Anyway I went back inside and told my friend on the tills what had happened and in the end she asked him about it when I'd gone on my dinner and said he blushed and grinned and wouldn't talk about me and well I kinda thought that meant I might have a chance so when I went out with him again later I asked if I could talk to him about something and he said go ahead. So I asked him how he'd known he was gay and he literally just stopped dead and looked right at me again and said to me "is this a conversation we should be having now or would you like to talk about this later" and when I asked him what he meant he said something like "I've got to be professional here but if you wanna talk to me as a mate then we'll go out during the week" well with it being christmas we never got the chance to lol and work was closed today so I don't see him until next weekend although I might text him and see if he wants to do something this week. Or should I wait and see if he texts me?

Secondly.. well I dunno what to make of this lol. This guy came in that same weekend and the girl I work with nudged me and said "that's his ex" and in the end he bought something and I ended up serving him and he looked at me and said "Oh you're [name] then" :s I know what I wanna think lol about why he knows my name, but seriously.. why would he know my name?

thanks x

I've been advising people here in Agony to not play games and just behave in a straightforward manner. If you want to see him and have a chat outside of work before the weekend, why shouldn't it be you who contacts him?

The 'moment of staring' is so common here.

Just don't rush things, you don't want him to think you're amazingly keen.

TEXT HIM. Life is too short.

Thanks for the update. Although I was expecting a happy ending towards the end of the post.



I think I would have cum in my pants at that point. In fact I know I would.


I'm not sure people would like you having snow ball fights in uniform though.


Does he know you are gay ?

Makes sense I guess lol thanks. Well I texted him asking if he wanted to meet up this week and he said he was going out with some mates tomorrow night (Tuesday night) or if I "wanted to talk about something" then me and him could go out somewhere on Wednesday Reckon opting for the latter makes things a bit more obvious?




Oh I very nearly did We were round the back of the shop in a staff only area so nobody saw us otherwise I doubt he'd have done it lol well I haven't come out to him yet technically, never really found the right moment but I think he knows... if I was him I'd wonder why else would I have asked him about knowing he was gay if that makes sense? It kinda worries me a little that he hasn't bought it up himself since I guess I want to believe he'd want to find out :/

I'll let you know how wednesday night goes, but thanks for your replies x

any news from last night then?

sorry but since my love life is non existant i like hearing about other peoples...

Haha, aww, happy new year and I hope that improves for you this year And yes, you could say there is news

Might as well start from the beginning (best place to start usually lol) he rang me and said did I mind going to a pub silly question really lol and when I arrived he was already there, he bought me a coke and sat down and we chatted about the football for a bit and eventually he looked at me and said "I don't mean to sound nosy or anything but at work that time.. it looked like there was something you wanted to tell me" and erm well of all the moments for your mouth to go incredibly dry lol I had no idea what to say when the moment arrived but he laughed and apologised saying he should have listened the first time but said "basically you were asking me how I knew I was gay and sorry if I've misread this but I think there's a reason you were asking me that" and I took a deep breath and said yeah there was and he asked me if I was gay and I said "well yeah there is someone I really like" my thinking being I might as well go for it and my hoping that he might take the hint there.

He grinned and said "you shouldn't label yourself just for liking one guy that's just a part of growing up sometimes" so I told him I was pretty sure I was gay because I'd liked more than one guy but it was one specific guy I liked now and he suddenly looked dead serious and said "Without being arrogant can I assume that guy is me then?" and I said yeah (never has that one bloody word been so hard to say ¬¬) and he sort of smiled and sighed and I joked saying "that's a worrying reaction" and he said "look can I be completely honest here" I said go on and he said "when [his ex] left me I kind of promised myself I'd avoid relationships for a while because they hurt too much and they seemed like a lot of hassle so I really wasn't looking for anything with anyone, I promised myself no matter who I met I'd just keep quiet and not let myself get hurt in the long run" and he went quiet for a few moments and said "you already know I like you don't you.. you might have put it down to hope or something, but I think you knew deep down" and I laughed and said yeah the thought had crossed my mind (didn't mention I'd been asking internet forums about it though )

He said "well that's the thing.. you're a really great guy and I didn't really expect to feel this way again anytime soon because I do really like you and it sort of scares me" and he sort of told me that him and his ex had been really great friends for years before they went out and he basically lost that friend when they went out and broke up and that he thought I was a really good friend and he just had a feeling of deja vu about the whole thing. I wasn't really sure what to say then and he said "I know this might sound like me creating a lot of fuss over nothing but I really don't wanna end up confusing you about how I feel" and I said I understood and that he sort of had work to think about and I was kinda a lot younger than him and again he laughed and said he wasn't bothered about work because he knew how to be professional there and that as long as I wasn't 12 that age didn't matter to him lol. then he went quiet again for a few seconds before looking up and he did that thing again where he looked right into my eyes and held my hand and I practically melted on the spot lol and he smiled at me and said lets just enjoy the night eh

We stayed there for another couple of hours and he bought me something to eat and a few more drinks (one cheeky beer ) and eventually we both left and started to walk home until we had to go seperate ways and well my memory is all a blur here lol I turned to say goodbye and he put his arms around me and grinned and said something like it was probably his turn to do that and for a few seconds we just looked at each other and he said "i must be mad you know that" and we both laughed and I asked him what he meant and he said that he knew it was only a trip to the pub but he couldnt remember enjoying himself that much for ages and he stroked my hair (very nearly had to peel me off the pavement by this point) and whispered something which i think was "one step at a time yeah" and I said does that mean we can do this again he said definitely and I asked him if I'd get a goodnight kiss (wanted to kill myself as soon as it slipped out lol) and he blushed and said "do you want one" I said yeah and he kissed me I know that sounds like some cheesy scene from a disney film lol but just trying to get it all across.. i'm still on cloud 9 to be honest lol

You were both very sweet and very kind to each other - great to hear. Bravo!





So did ya press your hard-on onto his?

Heh thanks

And erm... well I didn't mention anything downstairs wasn't sure if people needed to know lol but since you ask yeah lol. One thing I did notice though:

Fuck me he's big

aww cheers mate, thats sweet of you to say. happy new year to you too and i'm glad everything went so well for you. it really does sound like a fairytale or something lol.

Evil!!

Arh. A happy story for a change.

Take is slowly as he don't want to be hushed. Don't hassle/txt/phone him too much.

Hope he feels the same the next day.

You should tell him that even though he wasn't looking, fait has intervened.

Glad to hear it went well.
I'd echo other's advice and say to not rush and be patient, but you seem a sensible fellow, so just go with the flow.




You're such a classy fellow.

Nice to see a happy ending to one of these stories for once.

You've got the awesome part to look forward to now where it's all sex and learning things about each other. I love my boyfriend but I really miss those first 6 months.

But there's no need to rush.

And don't be pressured into anything you don't want to do.




And don't talk to strangers.

Awww, thats so sweet. I hope it all goes well for you both!

Don't rush into anything, and enjoy it! Oh, and post any updates! x

Awww, it warms my cockles! And God knows my old cockle could use a good warming. I'm so happy for you both.

What a nice wee story. Happy New Year, dude. Sounds like 2010 is goin to be a good one for you! I'm very jealous.

Thanks that applies to a lot of people lol

Well, today was the first time we were both in work since and I guess it was awkward lol but it went well overall. He didn't really joke around with me like he normally does :/ just came and helped me whenever I needed anything and then disappeared until the next time lol. He did accept a relationship status with me on facebook though then I sort of panicked thinking that might be rushing him but he said he was fine with it.

Oh, and tonight after work we went back to his and erm, well, he didn't wanna do anything "proper" but we lied down on his bed and cuddled for a bit and sort of ended up in it i rate him highly haha he asked me to stay there next saturday as well

an update so soon.

i guess he is being professional at work, now he nolonger needs to drop hints.

Were you naked in bed

Yeah we both were