I've just had my grandmother inform me of her concerns regarding my five year old second cousin (lets call her Jane
). Who she suspects is being physically abused and perhaps even neglected. According to her, she has also seen Jane with a black eye. She has approached the mum (my first cousin, lets call her Mary
) and it caused argument, denial and so on. 'She fell down' was one response.
On a personal note, last year I escaped a life long of child abuse and domestic violence. So I am afraid I am allowing my emotions get a better of my more rational judgement. The obvious advice would be, speak to my Auntie who is my 2nd cousin grand mother. Trouble is she is mentally unwell, wouldn't even respond properly if there was a fire in the house...
My uncles are highly charged emotional people themselves. They will rush in, shout, demand answers and cause fights. This is based on their ill attempts of past 'family interventions' on other issues.
I could approach her myself, but admittedly I am holding back because she'd go mental and immediately refuse to talk to me for almost an eternity. She has that much pride. Not to mention it will cause untold arguments from here on in...
What would you do?