advise needed Options

[joe-ash]

hi im in need of some advise

my last post was about wanting to come out and how to go about it and what to expect after i did, now that im out things didnt turn out as i would of liked my parents disowned me and all of the people i thought were my friends turn there backs on me.
althought im the kind of person not to let things like that get me down its been a hard year but im finally happy well actually happier then ive ever been i met someone and he has turnt out to be the most amazing boyfriend ever

but now i feel like im to dependant on my boyfriend when im with him i feel like im on cloud 9 but as soon as were apart i become moody and sad and cant stop thinking about him i dont want to scare him away by being to clingy or let him think that i cant cope without him although thats kind of how i feel.

i dont know why im like this i never have been in past relationships maybe its all the drama of coming out and losing everyone it could also be the fact this is my first openly gay relationship im just not sure how to stop myself from feeling like i NEED to be around him 24/7

and advise is greatly appreciated

[YORKSHIRE GUY]

Hello Joe.

Shame on your parents for disowning you for just being who you are.

I'm not sure about how often you and your bf are apart.

It's pretty normal for partners to have separate:-
Jobs
Some friends / family visits / social life
Maybe a hobby or two


And togther:-
Much of social life
Some hobbies

It's natural to miss him if you love him so much, but you shouldn't let him not being there have a negative effect on an otherwise ok day. My guess is that he'd find this too much to handle.

Good luck.

[ic1male]

Why did your parents and friends disown you?

[deegee178]

Hi Joe. Firstly congrats on coming out and finding a special someone. I'm sorry your family and friends have not been supportive - don't forget though as hard as that is it is their problem not yours!

What it has done though is left a gap in your life and I think this is what is causing you to be down when your boyf is not around. As YG has said it is natural for partners to have friends etc outside of their relationship but it sounds as though you don't have these at present. It will take time but as you build new friendships I think you will start to feel better when your are not with your partner. Without being condescending, why not take up a hobby, or go to night school etc as a way of meeting new friends?

Hope this helps!

[slayersw]

Hi Joe, firstly. I'm sorry about your parents. My mum threw me out when she found out and I wasn't expecting it. So I know how heart breaking it is. So you have mega mega hugs and props for getting through that.

I don't know what more I can add to what previous posters have said. I think you need to maybe find a hobby, try finding other ways of making friends. In this day and age, twitter is a great way. In fact. I have made 3 really good friends from this forum.

I really hope you manage to find a way to interact with other people, because i promise, as soon as you do that, you'll not feel as down when your boyfriend isn't around.

Good luck with whatever you do. And re: the parents situation, if you need to talk or anything, I'm only a PM away.

x