"The guy at work" Options

[thisiscain]

I started a new weekend job about 2 months ago as a till monkey while I'm at college and I'm really starting to fall for my supervisor :/ He was the one who till trained me and walk me round the shop and all the usual formalities etc and in a very uptight shop he's really laid back a good laugh. I'm 16 (nearly 17) and I've (well, it feels like) fallen for straight guys before and I can deal with that. Get on with it, move on. And I know this sounds like an "I wish he was gay" topic but in a strange way this is what is driving me mad: he IS gay.

A few weeks after I'd started I was speaking about him to another cashier there and she winked at me and said "you and [him] are getting on well aren't you?" and I panicked a bit in case she'd somehow worked I like him but she said "oh, I thought you knew he was gay". It sounded too good to be true because he's very straight acting but she said he'd split with his boyfriend of 2 years during the summer and that he seemed a bit more perky around me than usual? I mentioned what she'd said to him later on (well apart from the last bit) and he just told me that he was, said he was comfortable with it, that everyone there knew but that he didn't really see a reason to mention it. And since then my mind's gone into overdrive about whether he might like me back or not.

He works every other weekend so I do see him fairly often and when I asked him if he fancied going out one night he showed some interest but he's 20 and at uni, so is it likely he won't be interested in a college kid? :/ I got his MSN address and his number and I do speak to him most days now and there's a lot of winking and that sort of thing on MSN. He always seems happy to talk to me and on Saturday night at about midnight my parents had another big argument and I texted him asking if he was still awake and in the end he rang me to see if I was okay and we were on the phone until 3am. And he still looked really hot and energetic in work 6 hours later! Some people just have it don't they

And yesterday.. well I dunno what made me do it but when he was on a till next to me and I needed to get past him I put my hands on his hips and pushed him to the side that way. Sounds a bit weird I know (okay so it WAS weird ) but I kinda wanted to see his reaction to try and gauge whether he likes me or not and he grinned at me but then randomly walked off? Then later I sort of caught his eye while he was walking past and he definitely looked back and held my gaze and smiled at me.

I think the signs are there but I've been made to look a fool in this sort of situation before. I know obviously nobody can tell me for definite apart from him but this is more of a getting it off my chest post. Does anyone think this might be worth persuing? I'm just worried if I ask him more he'll twig how much I like him and work might become really awkward? Does that make sense?

Thanks guys x

[JayCee]

Go for it boyo it seems that all the signs are there and he's for the taking. Good luck!

[nastyboi]

The child in me is saying "go for it"

The school teacher in me is saying "be careful"

what do you want from him?

Are you after a relationship or just a bit of fun??

From what you've said, he seems to be interested in you - which is a good sign. Maybe after you grabbed his hips and he walked off, he was going to some little corner in the store in hopes you'd follow him for a sneaky kiss or something? Try that again and see what happens..


good luck

[jdcyl]

Maybe after you grabbed his hips and he walked off, he was going to some little corner in the store in hopes you'd follow him for a sneaky kiss or something? Try that again and see what happens..

Uh, no. The supervisor was being mature and acting responsibly. Regardless of whether or not the attraction is mutual, the workplace is for work, not for groping colleagues. There is no suitable advice for the OP except to follow the supervisor's lead and behave professionally.

Nothing wrong with asking him out (he's friendly enough!), so long as the OP accepts that the answer may very well be 'no'. It wouldn't be unusual at all for anyone - even a gay man (gasp!) - to simply have a rule about not seeing anyone from work, especially not someone under one's supervision.

This post has been edited by jdcyl: Dec 8 2009, 05:57

[Phoenix19]

I agree, be careful what you say or do while at work.

Perhaps a better way to deal with this situation would be to give him a cheeky grin from time to time, but don't do or say any more than that.

If you happen to bump into each other some time (for example, while putting your jackets on at the end of a shift ) you could always drop a little hint ( "doing much this weekend?") and see if he bites.

You have to remember that he is a bit older than you and, even if he does like you, he doesn't want to come across as some dirty old perv who can't wait to get into the boxers of every new lad at work!

[Sam Hain]

You have to remember that he is a bit older (20) than you and, even if he does like you, he doesn't want to come across as some dirty old perv who can't wait to get into the boxers of every new lad at work!

"Dirty old pervs" are a lot younger these days!

[Kev]

If you happen to bump into each other some time (for example, while putting your jackets on at the end of a shift ) you could always drop a little hint ( "doing much this weekend?") and see if he bites.

"Do you want to grab a pint"?

[Brightonbased]

"Do you want to grab a pint"?

But presumably not at the same time as provocatively thrusting your bulging crotch towards him.........



Sorry.

[Alex24]

Oh, totally go for it.

You really don't have very much to lose. It sounds as if he either really fancies you or really wants to be mates with you so either way I'm sure that he'll be flattered.

Just invite him out for a drink. If he says yes then he probably does fancy you.

Good luck. Let us know how it goes.

[darker_phoenix]

GRABBED HIS HIPS WTF.

[ribzy]

AWw this is cute.

I'm just a kid so I say flirt with him, but ya never know he might fire you for getting too close.

How tall is he?

[Sam Hain]

How tall is he?

Why, do you have some advice to give that varies slightly dependent on the height of the guy?

[ribzy]

How tall is he?

Why, do you have some advice to give that varies slightly dependent on the height of the guy?

I have a thing for height, it helps me see the situation more clearly.

[Sam Hain]

How tall is he?

Why, do you have some advice to give that varies slightly dependent on the height of the guy?

I have a thing for height, it helps me see the situation more clearly.

Especially if one is tall.

[ribzy]

How tall is he?

Why, do you have some advice to give that varies slightly dependent on the height of the guy?

I have a thing for height, it helps me see the situation more clearly.

Especially if one is tall.

If the guy is tall and this dude is small, it makes it seem as if flirtling would just be a piece of harmless fun. Touching bums would be more normal then. However if they are both tall then it becomes serious it's hard to explain.
If they are both short then they should just play on the till, no body will notice. Just two hobbits having fun.

[|.::TJ::.|]

Yes that makes complete sense

[ribzy]

I don't understand what I'm saying aswell.
Looks like might aswell stay in this hole.

[Phil K]

some people have all the luck.

Can't you ask him out for an evening when chatting on MSN/phone.

[TzukeNut]

He might need to be careful about flings/relationships with members of his team - the expression is "don't screw the crew".

[Phil K]

doesn't sound like they work together too often.


let us know good or bad what happens